Is a good partner supportive for successful work life also, or is a relationship too time consuming? Part1
Is a good partner supportive for successful work life also, or is a relationship too time consuming? Part1
Is a good partner supportive for successful work life also, or is a relationship too time consuming? Part 1
People who have a supportive partner would never want to be without their beloved companion. People who don’t have a partner may think that a relationship is too time consuming and that good partners are rare.
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I personally believe and experience that a supportive, loving partner is one of the best things that can happen to you. Support and love have a positive effect on your work life as well, and here are some fun and practical steps to bring a wonderful partner into your life 🙂🥰
How to find a loving partner — how do you actually do it? Part1
Endless “active waiting” will definitely not help! 😄
Active waiting is more like procrastination and marinating in your limiting beliefs.
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If you don’t have a partner, then I recommend you start actively going on dates! 😎
I hope your reaction is not: Oh my God! Why? What for? Where do I find the time? I’m such a busy person! Dating requires so much effort! I can manage on my own — people can live alone these days! I have friends! All men are the same! All women are so complicated! What if he’s a bad cook? What if he throws his socks everywhere? Where am I supposed to find a partner? All the good ones are already taken (yes, that’s what you think because you see acquaintances who have partners and get along wonderfully). Should I go look on the street or what? And so on and so on 😳
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Why? What for? Why?
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Because life with a wonderful partner is amazing 👩❤️👨 Shared joy is double joy 🥰👩❤️👨🥰
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My husband says that in the short term, life alone is very comfortable, but in the long run, being alone is very sad. I agree with him 100%.
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If you think that all good partners are taken, or that everyone has something wrong with them, or who would want me at 50+ with cellulite, then you have limiting beliefs! And those beliefs are preventing you from finding a wonderful partner.
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Dating apps are a good place to look for a partner because some people there are genuinely looking for a good companion.
(Did it get scary again when I mentioned dating apps? 😂)
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Yes, there are also plenty of love scammers, manipulators, and people in complicated relationships who want a third person involved — because why else would they be on the app?
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But there are also truly lovely people who have healed from past wounds or who have lost their partner and don’t want to remain alone. And those are the people worth getting to know 🙂
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And yes, you need a cool head to end rude conversations quickly or not respond at all, but you don’t need to focus on those. Besides, a stranger’s provocation is a great opportunity to grow your confidence. I tell my hypnotherapy clients directly: yes, go on a dating app, sift through the junk, and find yourself a wonderful partner.
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My own friend has said, “Ugh, I don’t feel like starting dating again, it takes effort.” But what’s so scary about it? You shouldn’t go on blind dates, of course, and before meeting face‑to‑face you can check someone’s background online, make a video call, and then decide whether you want to continue talking. If you do go on a date, it means a nice dinner or maybe a bowling night. And even then, you can always thank them for the time and say NO if you don’t want a second date. A bit of grooming before going on a date is appropriate and human — we all want to make a good impression, but it doesn’t have to be exhausting. One should not pretend to be a different person on a date and in everyday life. And from time to time, it’s fun to dress up a little 😎
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And here’s a small tip, especially for women, before going on a date: please don’t go on a date thinking, “I wonder if he’ll like me.” Better go thinking: “I’m going to see if I like him, if he treats me well.” Go to see whether you like him, not whether he likes you.
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When you go on an app, you may discover that your communication skills need polishing — so start polishing them. You don’t need to start discussing dowries in the first conversation; first you need to see whether you can keep a conversation going, or whether the other person can.
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Some more helpful tips:
☯️ Use a profile picture with a kind, warm smile. Leave your deeper essence for later discovery 🙂
☯️ Add a photo of yourself in nature or doing light sports if you have such pictures. Not all photos should be posed and refined — some should be natural.
☯️ Don’t write in your bio what you dislike or can’t tolerate. Instead, write a little about what you enjoy or what you focus on in life — be human!
☯️ If you get a question, answer it. And it’s polite to ask a question back — that way you learn more about the person and they feel that you’re interested too.
☯️ Don’t “hang” in conversations for hours. Chat a bit and then end the conversation for the evening — otherwise you’ll seem like you have nothing else to do.
☯️ If the person becomes more likeable but isn’t using their real name in the app, ask for their real name and look them up online. Make sure they are who they say they are. And definitely don’t go on a blind date — it makes you seem desperate or could make you vulnerable to scams!
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Looking for a partner on apps can feel a bit like the Wild West 😄 But please remember – good people do exist, and sharing your life with a wonderful person is one of the greatest joys 🤗
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It’s worth putting in a little effort and growing as a person. Besides, you win — you grow in humanity, courage, and you find a lovely partner! 💖
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Imagine coming home after a long, stressful workday and KNOWING that a smiling partner is waiting for you, asking how your day was. They listen, ask how they can help, and you feel supported — and suddenly you may have an “aha” moment about how to solve a work problem, because you feel cared for 🤗
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If you need help, then an experienced hypnotherapist — me — is just one info call away. You can book a call through Calendly:
https://calendly.com/kati-paeorg
I wish you an exciting journey toward finding a supportive and loving partner 💖
