Finding a Loving Partner — How to Do It? Part 3
Finding a Loving Partner — How to Do It? Part 3
Choose your partner from among the people who choose you!
Life becomes much easier when you pick those who genuinely pick you — you no longer have to fight or constantly prove yourself.
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If you didn’t have a good example in childhood of what a healthy relationship looks like, you may end up choosing someone similar to your mother or father. Your potential new partners` behaviour feels familiar just like moms or dads was — even if it is unhealthy.
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You may be used to people hiding their feelings, yelling, fighting, or even hitting.
Of course no one wants a partner who shouts, starts fights, or is emotionally distant — but because this behaviour feels familiar, it can be mistaken for love.
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People choose partners with the same broken patterns their parents had, hoping that “this time it will be different.”
99.9% of the time, it won’t be different.
People who don’t want to change — and who don’t even see their negative traits — simply don’t change.
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So, if you choose someone who is conflict‑prone, sarcastic, easily angered, or extremely withdrawn and unable to express their real thoughts and feelings, then in 99% of cases, that is exactly who they will remain.
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Many people also struggle to choose a good partner because they are simply not used to peace, care, or being considered. It feels too ordinary — or even boring.
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But a partner who is in conflict with themselves cannot offer care or emotional safety.
They can only offer chaos. That’s why you must choose an open and supportive partner from the very beginning.
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Choose your partner from among the people who choose you.
Life becomes much easier — no constant fighting, no proving your worth.
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If your relationships haven’t worked out so far and you want to understand what you subconsciously believe about love that has led to these patterns, you can book an info call through Calendly and we can talk about how I can help you:
https://calendly.com/kati-paeorg
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The picture is illustrative: choose now and in the future only people who have a good attitude toward you — and notice how your life becomes lighter and happier
