If you\u2019re looking for a companion and feel like you\u2019ve found someone suitable, what do you think \u2014 should you immediately forgive all the strange quirks of this new and exciting partner? \ud83e\udd14<\/p>\n
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\nAfter all, in a relationship you\u2019re supposed to forgive, and you\u2019re a good person if you forgive\u2026 right? \ud83d\ude44<\/p>\n
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My firm recommendation is this: anything that feels odd, unpleasant, confusing, hurtful, or like a betrayal in the beginning \u2014 ask your partner friendly questions about it.<\/strong> .<\/p>\n Asking such questions kindly gives you a huge amount of information<\/em> about the kind of person you\u2019re dealing with.<\/p>\n .<\/p>\n For example: .<\/p>\n But if the answer you get is something like: .<\/p>\n Which type of person would you want to be with? .<\/p>\n Important:<\/strong> .<\/p>\n Know this: the moment someone treats you disrespectfully, be ready to walk away \u2014 especially at the beginning, but honestly, always.<\/p>\n . .<\/p>\n Did you know that one of the strongest foundations of a long and healthy relationship is deep respect for your partner<\/strong>? –<\/p>\n So, at the beginning of a relationship \u2014 contrary to what many people in love tend to do \u2014 the key is to ask reasonable questions and listen with genuine interest. .<\/p>\n The sooner you understand who you\u2019re dealing with \u2014 and if this person is not<\/em> what you\u2019d call a \u201chigh\u2011value partner\u201d \u2014 the easier it is to leave.<\/p>\n . .<\/p>\n This is not a threat, but your partner must know that if they behave badly, you will leave.<\/p>\n .<\/p>\n I once had a male client in hypnotherapy whose father hit his mother once when he and his brother were small. Even though his father apologized, the mother left with both children and never returned. . .<\/p>\n Children learn from their parents\u2019 example, not from the lessons parents preach but don\u2019t follow.<\/p>\n .<\/p>\n And you, dear reader \u2014 fall in love! Falling in love is wonderful! .<\/p>\n Imagine coming home after a long and stressful workday, and you KNOW that a smiling partner is waiting for you, asking how your day was. Your partner listens to you, asks how he can help. You feel supported, and suddenly, you might even find the solution to the problem at work because you feel so understood and supported \ud83d\udc96 \ud83d\udc96 \ud83d\udc96<\/p>\n .<\/p>\n If you need help rebuilding your confidence so you can ask questions and feel secure, know that an experienced hypnotherapist \u2014 that is me \u2014 is just one call away. .<\/p>\n I wish you an exciting journey toward finding a supportive partner \ud83d\udc96<\/p>\n In the picture it is me with my sweetheart exploring monks\u2019 caves carved into the rock \ud83e\udd70\ud83d\udc69\u200d\u2764\ufe0f\u200d\ud83d\udc68\ud83e\udd70<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" If you\u2019re looking for a companion and feel like you\u2019ve found someone suitable, what do you think \u2014 should you immediately forgive all the strange quirks of this new and exciting partner? \ud83e\udd14 . After all, in a relationship you\u2019re supposed to forgive, and you\u2019re a good person if you forgive\u2026 right? \ud83d\ude44 . My…<\/p>\n
\nAsk why they reacted that way, why they behaved like that, or what exactly they meant when they said something.<\/p>\n
\nIf you receive an answer where they calmly explain why they acted or spoke the way they did, and their intentions were good and logical, then you know you\u2019re dealing with a grounded person who values you and responds with clarity and warmth so that you can feel safe and understand the situation.<\/p>\n
\n\u201cThat\u2019s none of your business,\u201d \u201cStop sticking your nose everywhere,\u201d \u201cWhat a stupid question,\u201d or \u201cHow can you not understand?\u201d \u2014 then please don\u2019t feel guilty for asking.
\nInstead, understand that you\u2019re dealing with someone who does not value you (or likely anyone else), lacks empathy, prioritizes themselves, and diminishes others.<\/p>\n
\nA: someone who values you and always kindly explains things \u2014 and remember, no one can read minds, neither men nor women.
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\nB: someone who mocks your questions, belittles you, prioritizes themselves, and never explains their actions or words, leaving you confused \u2014 and likely will never change. In their mind, you<\/em> are always at fault.<\/p>\n
\nThe beginning of a relationship is not<\/em> the time for endless forgiveness \u2014 it\u2019s the time for friendly questions so you can understand who you\u2019re dealing with.
\nIf you don\u2019t dare to ask simple questions or think it\u2019s impolite, then you\u2019re lacking confidence \u2014 and that\u2019s not a good foundation for a balanced relationship. In that case, I recommend working on rebuilding your self-confidence, because a relationship can only be as healthy as your ability to communicate your needs.<\/p>\n
\nNo one respects a person who tolerates poor treatment. You also cannot respect yourself if you allow others to treat you badly. Without respect, interest fades, and what remains is the desire to control or even manipulate.<\/p>\n
\n(And taking your partner for granted is definitely not<\/em> a foundation for a good relationship.)
\nRespect is the cornerstone of love.<\/p>\n
\nNot to think: \u201cAh, they\u2019ll understand eventually\u2026 they\u2019ll change\u2026 others are worse anyway\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
\nAnd then you can move forward more quickly toward someone with real long\u2011term potential. You\u2019ll also be wiser from the experience, which makes your next decision easier and faster.<\/p>\n
\nFor her, one incident of unacceptable behaviour \u2014 after years of peaceful life \u2014 was enough. Her decision to value herself and not fall into despair like \u201cbut he\u2019s the father of my children, he won\u2019t do it again\u2026\u201d left a lifelong impression on my client.<\/p>\n
\nHe told me: \u201cI would never hit a woman. It wouldn\u2019t even cross my mind. I saw with my own eyes how ugly and humiliating it is. I would never sink to that level.\u201d<\/p>\n
\nJust remember to bring your mind with you and ask gentle clarifying questions. That\u2019s how you gain clarity.<\/p>\n
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